Emotion coaching - After the storm
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Do you often feel overwhelmed by your emotions? Do you feel that your emotions are in control of you instead of the other way around?
Do you feel scared a lot? Are there moments you explode in anger? Or do you have unstoppable bouts of crying? Additionally, would you like to feel more joy, ease and peace in your life?
I have created a coaching package specifically for you, so your emotions will start working for you instead of against you.
You will learn how to relate to your emotions in a healthy and nourishing way. This way they no longer cause havoc in your life, but will be the fuel of strength and for realizing your dreams.
Emotioncoaching is based on western science and eastern traditions, taking the best of both worlds to bring you into harmony with yourself.
How does emotion coaching work?
Emotions can help us
Most people will agree that emotions like joy, love and peace are necessary for our wellbeing and health. Less accepted is the view that all emotions have a function in our lifes. Also anger, fear, shame, judgement and so on have the potential to help us. We can use them as guidance and as part of our protective system.
Emotions can interfere
In reality though, we often let our emotions interfere with growing and succeeding. Bursts of anger, bouts of crying, feelings of shame, insecurity and fear stop us from living the life we truly desire. Our relationships are more difficult because of our emotions and the way we deal with them and our overall experience of daily life becomes harder because we block our emotions or let them rule us.
Change the way you relate to your emotions with emotion coaching
In this program you will change the way you relate to your emotions, so you can use the emotion or the energy of the emotion to create more of what you desire in life.
After emotion coaching you will experience
- Elevation of daily mood
- Less grumpiness, moodiness and restlessness
- Embodied knowing how to deal with a difficult emotion
- Emotional balance, feelings of strenght and resilience
- Increase in sensitivity
- Ability to choose how you feel
- Strong foundation of self love
- More connection
- Increase in trust in yourself and the world around
- Less fear and the need to control
- Less anxiety
- Less crying at unfortunate moments
- Less anger bursts and destruction
What does ‘After the Storm’ look like?
The emotion coaching trajectory consists of seven one-on-one sessions, including one breathwork session.
In these sessions you will learn to connect to your emotions in a safe way. This way you can feel them and influence them, without needing to suppress them.
We will define your personal goal for the program and I will teach you a basic understanding of the science behind emotions and the Tantric philosophy applied to emotions.
We will use meditation, visualization, breathing techniques and embodiment practices to change your relationship to your emotions.
In between sessions you will get homework practices, ranging from loving meditations to ecstatic release. In the following session we will discuss your homework experience, to get the most out of each practice.
My unique approach: emotion coaching
‘Negative’ and ‘positive’ emotions
Mostly in our society we learn that certain emotions are not good. We even call them negative emotions, in contrast to the positive emotions. Even in a lot of spiritual communities people strive to have less of these negative emotions and more of the positive ones.
Supressing emotions
The result of this is that we feel that we are abnormal for having (a lot) of these negative emotions and that we don’t know how to actually deal with them. In reality we often suppress our emotions and occasionally, when we can’t block them any longer, we let them control our thoughts and behaviour.
Physical emotional healing
In contrast to traditional therapy, where healing is supposed to occcur by talking about the past and changing your thoughts, the Tantric vision is that the key to emotional healing is to accept and then physically expressing all your emotions. The last few years more and more research shows this to be true and slowly this knowledge is seeping into mainstream therapy.
Emotions are somatic
We experience emotions in our body. For some people this is a weird concept. But remember when you feel nervous and you need to pee all the time. Or when you are very angry and you raise your voice or want to break something. This is your body desiring to physically express the emotion. When we stop ourselves from doing this, the energy of this emotion gets stuck in our body. Years and years of pushing emotions down creates numbness and disconnect from ourselves.
Emotion coaching
Healing occurs when you connect to the old emotions in your body and allow yourself to express them. Crying for pain you received as a child or teenager, screaming for the hurt ex lovers caused you. The story becomes less important, the physical experience is the key.
After healing
When you clean up old stuck emotions new experience will be much less painful, because they no longer touch upon your old trauma’s. This will also help in slowing down your response, which will help you to behave in a way that will help you, instead of reacting destructively.
This approach has many other positive results, as you can read above.
Experiencing emotions after emotion coaching - a personal story
“There is a pressure in my chest, moving up to my throat. It’s blocking my breath, locking my jaws. I can feel that my forehead is wrinkled, but I can’t seem to relax my face.
I have been ignoring this tension for days but it is becoming stronger and stronger and it keeps grabbing my attention. I can’t focus anymore on work, on conversations, but I really don’t want to confront this feeling.
The pressure is building and building and it keeps asking more strength, more power to keep the feeling from surfacing. I am scared that it will surround me, that I’ll drown in this feeling and lose all control. But I know that if I keep fighting it, I will have a panic attack.
So finally I cave. I lie down and close my eyes. I focus on the sensations in my chest. I breath deep and full into the tightness in my chest, the fulness in my throat. I want to scream, so I allow myself. A deep vibrating sound comes out of my chest. A low raspy sound comes from my throat. My body wants to move, to shake so I let it. I keep breathing and sounding and then the tears come.
I don’t know why I am crying, I don’t know why I had the tension, but I can feel that it is slowly leaving my body. I can breath again, I can feel the rest of my body again. As a tender lover I caress my arms, my face, my hair. My body relaxes completely. I feel light, joyful and filled with gratitude.”
Experiencing emotions after emotion coaching - a personal story
“There is a pressure in my chest, moving up to my throat. It’s blocking my breath, locking my jaws. I can feel that my forehead is wrinkled, but I can’t seem to relax my face.
I have been ignoring this tension for days but it is becoming stronger and stronger and it keeps grabbing my attention. I can’t focus anymore on work, on conversations, but I really don’t want to confront this feeling.
The pressure is building and building and it keeps asking more strength, more power to keep the feeling from surfacing. I am scared that it will surround me, that I’ll drown in this feeling and lose all control. But I know that if I keep fighting it, I will have a panic attack.
So finally I cave. I lie down and close my eyes. I focus on the sensations in my chest. I breath deep and full into the tightness in my chest, the fulness in my throat. I want to scream, so I allow myself. A deep vibrating sound comes out of my chest. A low raspy sound comes from my throat. My body wants to move, to shake so I let it. I keep breathing and sounding and then the tears come.
I don’t know why I am crying, I don’t know why I had the tension, but I can feel that it is slowly leaving my body. I can breath again, I can feel the rest of my body again. As a tender lover I caress my arms, my face, my hair. My body relaxes completely. I feel light, joyful and filled with gratitude.”
I always felt ashamed of my tears and didn’t want anyone to see me sad. Nina guided me through the different ways of experiencing my emotions. Pushing it away, made the sadness stronger and more intense. When I allowed myself to let the sadness flow and be there I saw it as a powerful waterfall in a jungle, strong and alive. Feeling the difference in my body was very powerful. Emotion coaching changed the way I see emotions, and has taught me to appreciate them more.
When I started emotion coaching with Nina, I immediately knew this was different. The body-oriented practices we do make me and the world feel different. I now not only know what I can do, but also feel it. Nina teaches me to grow the love and strength in myself, and to give destructive feelings less power. I would recommend anyone with grief, fear, anger or any other struggles in life to get acquainted with Nina’s special way of coaching.
Emotion coaching
- Deep, transformative sessions that change the way you relate to your emotions and bring harmony and joy to your life
- Visualizations, meditations and breathing practices to create lasting change within your body
- Scientific understanding of emotions, trauma and how this works in your body and mind
- Teachings of Tantric philosophy applied to emotions and how this philosophy contributes to a happy and balanced life
- Homework assignments to reinforce and solidify what you learn and discover during a coaching session
- Guidance between sessions
- 3 hour breathwork session (worth € 300)
Emotion coaching
- Deep, transformative sessions that change the way you relate to your emotions and bring harmony and joy to your life
- Visualizations, meditations and breathing practices to create lasting change within your body
- Scientific understanding of emotions, trauma and how this works in your body and mind
- Teachings of Tantric philosophy applied to emotions and how this philosophy contributes to a happy and balanced life
- Homework assignments to reinforce and solidify what you learn and discover during a coaching session
- Guidance between sessions
- 3 hour breathwork session (worth € 300)
Ask your own question
Frequently asked questions
How do I know emotion coaching is for me?
This program is for you if you:
- Consider yourself an emotional person
- Often feel overwhelmed by emotions
- Cry a lot, also in situations where it is detrimental to your life
- Are scared of many things or one big thing
- Have anger management issues
- Feel like your emotions are annoying and in the way of thriving and reaching your full potential.
- Are sensitive to other peoples emotions
How can anger be a good emotion? Shouldn’t I always strive to be less angry?
Anger is the response of your body and mind when a boundary is crossed. The powerful energy of anger, when used well, can change your life, even the world.
The problem is when anger is supressed and comes out in unwanted moments, often destructing without differentiating in what would be good to be destroyed and what definitely should stay.
Furthermore, we tend to supress anger and supressing emotions creates tension, restlessness and overall a not so happy feeling.
I don’t feel so much and what you describe sounds great. Can you help me become more sensitive?
There are a lot of practices you can do to feel less numb, feel more. However, this program is designed for women who feel a lot and suffer because of that.
Becoming more sensitive sounds not like something I desire. I would like to feel less, because everything I feel is so intense. Why would I want to feel more?
Part of why emotions are so hard is because we put a lot of energy into suppressing them. So, not the emotion itself is hard, but the way we deal with it. When you actually allow the emotion itself, even the hard emotions can be pleasurable.
Additionally, when you feel less of the hard emotions, you will also feel less of the emotions you do enjoy. So becoming more sensitive, while becoming stronger and more resilient, will let you experience joy, love, connection and pleasure more intensly.
Becoming more sensitive sounds not like something I desire. I would like to feel less, because everything I feel is so intense. Why would I want to feel more?
Life energy is an important concept in Tantra. We can feel this life energy most easily when we are very excited. Hornyness and the urge to do something with it is easily recognizable as a form of energy.
Emotions are also energy. It is possible to mix the energy of these emotions with the energy of horniness. An orgasm with the energy of the emotion feels like the emotion itself is transforming and exploding.
This will give you a great experience: you will never look at your emotions the same way again.